Is love a Bad Thing?

Who would you rather choose? Someone who loves you or someone you love? A person who will do everything and anything for you or a person who's just waiting for you to do everything for him?

The world is so unfair. Sometimes, i think that the word love is a very BAD thing. It maybe true that love is a wonderful feeling but after the butterflies have flown away from your stomach, you would realize that loving someone had taught you to hate, to be angry, vengeful and worst it will make you numb.

It hurts to see someone walk away from you but what hurts most is when they made you feel loved, made you fool for them, made you believe they loved but never really do. Sometimes, we can say to ourselves that "I'm OK". we can even manage to smile all the way and even laugh hard as if nothing happened.  We may even tend to talk a lot as if we really know what we are saying.  But if one time you'd get to see what's really inside of me, why i try to be funny and crazy, please don't ask why, just smile with me. 

What is love much like?

Like a song? Maybe. it has a start and ending. It has refrain, which makes it over and over again.  A song that has many genres, sometimes it could be happy, sad, forgiving, encouraging and all the good things that can further describe our feeling but again it could also be a noise that is very annoying.

It's like a cigarette smoke that fade away, diffusing two fresh air.  Loosing it's traces to a wider space but even if the smoke is gone, the scent will remain causing much addiction, making us go for more, longing for the smoke that already left us.

Sometimes, its more like a tattoo , You take the risk, face pain and yet place it in a special part of you and when the time comes that you need to erase it, you have to endure yet again pain and realize that it will forever leave a scar that will always remind you that you had once a tattoo that for sometime symbolized something special.

Maybe, it is much more like a war. Easy to begin but hard to end.  So when you fall in love, choose the one who is willing to fight the war with you until the end.

The question still remains, are you still going to choose on who will love ---- you or that someone?....

  

Losers Are Champions Too

It’s sad to see a loved one frustrated about a failure.  The feeling is mutual even if you are not the one in his shoe.  It’s really difficult to accept that we sometimes fail.  But, what does it take to be a champion?  For all I know, is we are all champion in our own right. 

We can be more than a champion if we only learn from being a loser

Be strong and smart. Just because we fail today, we think, we will keep losing again and again. But we are totally wrong! In fact, if we learn from what went wrong the first time around, we’re more likely to get it right the next time around.

 

Be Humble.  Don’t put your own self in a pedestal thinking that all of our ideas are brilliant.  Maintain a low profile ego to admit that we might not be as smart as we think we are.  We just have to let life find a way and do it for us.

Perseverance.  An easy option doesn’t mean you have to grab it.  Sometimes we have to do what is tough, because it is the right choice.  Not the other way around.  You need perseverance to push through those moments of frustration.

Endurance.  Not because it feels awful and strange to lose doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try again.  It’s feels a lot better to give another shot than feeling sorry because we didn’t took the chance to try. Endurance means that we remain steadfast even through criticism, monotony, and discouraging odds.

Support group.  As they say, no man is an island.  Most of the time, asking for help is the fastest way to make things done.  Don’t be afraid to get others involved. Let's admit it, there are things we couldn't do alone.

Push the limits. Go beyond the answers to your questions, explore new things. Not because you have the solution to the problem doesn’t mean you have to stop.  It’s always better to have Plan B.  Go out of your way and listen to other’s opinion.  Maybe you know something that no one else does. Maybe you have different strengths than they do.

We have to compete not only for the prize.  Prizes and rewards comes in many different forms. We may not have the medals and trophies to boast for and even if we lose a hundred times we are still winners if only we have all of these characteristics for it would be the best award we can really be proud of.  There are still more unlisted we just have to be aware and be critical in thinking.  All of us had tasted defeat or experienced failing in the past.  Learn from losing because to be a champion you have to be a loser first.  

Thank You For This Special Day

Hmmm... Another year had passed... Another year to add in my number... But what does a special day really mean?  Why do we need to remember a day for us?  For many years of my life, I had enjoyed the beautiful wonders of life.  Ups and downs were so many to  be counted. But most of the time, we tend to forget one of the essence of living -- to be thankful.  Reflecting on what we are truly thankful for each year is so crucial, and so easily forgotten, in our busy day-to-day lives. There is less doubt in my mind now that being thankful is one of the best ways to hit "the Pause" on all of the craziness that surrounds me, and simply be in gratitude, at least for a day.

In fact, We don't need a special day to give thanks.  We don't even need a special reason to be of gratitude. The reality is that we all have something to be thankful for regardless of what you’re going through right now.Even if you think your life is not as good as it should be, you ought to be thankful that it’s not as bad as it could be! No matter how bad you have it right now, there is someone who has it worse and would willingly change places with you right now. And chances are that person is more thankful than you are. We must remember in all things to give thanks

Life is wonderful! It all depends how we view things from their perspective.  Most of the time, I had been into too many difficult times, but I should still be thankful, because without it, I may not be who I am today. Right now, I am facing another difficult time in my life. But, having it will be a remarkable event for this chapter of my book.  

I want to take this time to thank the ONE who had given me life, for those years he had given me.   I am also very sorry that I always forget to give thanks and put value on all of the things that he had bestowed. 

LORD, Thank you so much for I woke up another day. A day so special to celebrate.  Thank you for letting me enjoy life for many years. Thank you for all the joys and pains, laughter and sorrows and all the people you had given me to touch my life for the past years.

The Art Letting Go

The Art of Letting Go

Why do we have to shed tears when we say goodbye? We cry when we are in pain, when we are hurt.   But why does saying goodbye have to be painful?










Sometimes, I wonder why I still bother to love? When I know that it will always be the same story.  Chasing a heart that will never be mine, Begging for affection that will never be given, Sacrificing for a doubtful future and crying for the one who will never love me back.

Why hold on for too long to what's never meant? Sometimes, we need to set things free before it hurts us even more.  It takes a lot of courage to let go and set someone free for you have kept, cherished and loved for a long time. Isn't it that all you ever hoped and wished for the one you love is for him to always be happy? Thus, it's a sacrifice, even if its setting him free.

Has it ever crossed your mind that at times goodbye is also a wonderful thing?

Because it is a beginning of a new chapter waiting to be unfold.  And sometimes, we need to say goodbye to let that loved one find someone and also unfold his new chapter in life.

So, why be in pain, why cry and waste those tears when you should start picking up the pieces and give yourself a chance to discover and find that one true love.  After all, they say, goodbyes are not forever.  Set free of that someone. If  he comes back for you, he's yours forever, if he doesn't he was never really meant for you.

Setting someone free may not be easy but in time you will realize that you have cried and was hurt because you have sacrifice to let go because you have truly loved and that's the ART OF LETTING GO.